Welcome back to Text Sensei, the place where we get deep in the weeds with text culture đ Today, we will look at how you can deal with a text from a guy, and tell you some of the best ways to reply.
Texting is playing a growing part in our lives and we need to become text artists in this day and age đSo here are some top texts men like to send and how to reply to them.
Before we get deep into the weeds of this article, I would like to say that we also have another article all about how to text a guy you are interested in for the first time. Learn how to get the conversation started HERE.
Four Typical Texts Guys like to Send!
Text 1: The âOh Crapâ Textâââââ
You know, a lot of men are not really romantic by nature, and this can result in two things happening. Firstly, they go for a while without being obviously romantic to their partner, and secondly they realise this and felt insecure!
It really is that âoh crapâ moment when it suddenly dawns on a guy they need to âbe romanticâ or âshow some loveâ after neglecting this for a period of time they think is too long and could cause relationship problems.
What do most men do when they get this feeling? They result to texting one of those cliched lines that they think will get them back in the good books. Or will cement their place as a love in your life!
Often, these texts can appear out of the blue or even out of character. So you know what the deal is when you suddenly get one of these texts from your man or a love interest!
The big question is âhow should I respond?â
Well, the first thing to say is donât go overboard. If the man in question doesnât send these types of texts regularly, he was probably just having an âoh crapâ moment. It doesnât mean he was obsessing over you in his thoughts, just that he remembered he needs to be more romantic đ Donât worry, this is perfectly normal for most guys!
Usually this text will be something like âI love youâ, âmiss youâ or âthinking of youâ or some other cliche âromanticâ line that the guy could think of. Donât take the bait and reply back in the same manner, âThinking of you tooâ. This is exactly what he is looking for.
When a man sends you a text like this out of the blue, they know they have been lazy in love and you donât want to make it too easy for them to feel they âsolvedâ this and move on (which they most certainly will if you reply âlove you tooâ).
Instead, go for a more reserved, appreciative and maybe even mildly funny response such asâŚ..
âArrrâŚ.what a lovely thing to say.â
âWow, you got out of the romantic side of the bed this morningâ
Follow these responses with a happy face emoticon (not the love heart ones though!!)
Mission accomplished, you have shown appreciation but not gone over board and let him off the hook too easily.
Text 2: The Sudden âControl Freakâ
You know that a lot of men like to think they go by the âtreat them mean keep them keenâ philosophy, or something along those lines. âGoing off the radarâ for a while to test a womanâs attachment to them is getting rather common, but can also be highly annoying đ
The annoying part comes in when the man in question decides to steam roller back into your life with one of those cliched âloveâ lines. You saw them above right? âMissing youâ âthinking of youâ etc.
Whatâs the problem with this, you may ask?
Well, after they have âkept you keenâ for a few weeks, they think they can steam roller back into a âlovey doveyâ (this is not a technical term) text session and all will be well.
If you text back in the way they expect âmissing you tooâ in parrot fashion they will have had their ego massaged somewhat. ‘After several weeks this woman is still keen’, they will think. I must be the âbig cheeseâ (again, not a technical term) they think.
As is the theme with a lot of replies here, donât let them off the hook so easily đ
Reply with something witty and intelligent such as:
âtell me something I donât knowâ
âyou donât sayâ
Follow this reply with a mischievous emoticon, such as the winky face emoticon. You wonât have massaged the guys ego too much, but your humour is still showing him you are interested. Job done!!
Text 3: That âheyâ textâŚ.
This one is kind of annoying, right? When a guy sends this, it means they have nothing better to do and have this âhumour meâ attitude.
These âheyâ texts take very little thought, so we donât want to reward the guy sending these with too much in return. Donât âhumour himâ and starting sending detailed descriptions of what you are doing or thinking đ
Simply return the compliment with a âheyâ of your own. But take any potential heat out of this reply by accompanying it with a funny emoticon. Easy, right?
Text 4: Those late night texts!
You know that sex is on a mans mind a lot in the course of a day, right? Men are often like primal creatures, and this is never more so when it gets late. Those texts out of the blue after 10pm are probably the result of a manâs natural desire to mate, and the thought that he is not mating right now and why?? ha ha!!
This is fair enough if you are in a relationship with someone, but when you get one of these texts out of the blue from someone you haven’t seen for a while, or someone that cancelled on you that day, you know that his primal instincts are taking over.
Again, donât let this guy off the hook too easily by making him feel like the âbig dogâ in this text conversation. Instead, use humour to highlight what this text really isâŚ.a late night booty call!!
Reply with something likeâŚ.
âgot over your non-committal phase then have you?â
âDate number 2 not returning your calls?â
âGotten over your flakey moment?â
Again, always follow these texts with a fun and quirky emoticon to make the guy realise you are not being serious. But a reply like this will make him realise he canât be a âflakeâ with you and it go un-noticed. You then find out how serious he really is about you!!
When should you respond?
Itâs all well and good thinking about how to reply to a manâs texts, but the other big question is when? I am sure you have heard people talking about âkeeping them keenâ by not replying straight away and such like!
However, these mind games have been proven over time to not work. By using such tactics you are simply over complicating something that should be pretty simple!
Just use common sense, donât reply literally the second he has stopped typing but donât keep him waiting too long or he will probably lose interest. A text conversation only stays âhotâ for a few hours, so try to keep your replies within that time frame. Other than that, just act natural đ
I hope you enjoyed this article from the Text Sensei. If you have any of your own experiences we would love to hear all about them in the comments section below.